Things have been interesting lately with our little Mr. Man Seth. Like I said in his post, he is doing amazing in school and really is a big help. What we are having problems with at home is how he is with his little sister.
Lately, he has been pushing, hitting, and kicking Skylar. He will antagonize her to the point of getting her upset by hoarding toys, pushing her around, not allowing her to go where she wants to go just because and then uses her getting upset as an excuse to unleash on her. In fact, the other day, he straight turned around and punched her in the stomach. I saw the whole thing and he didn't think I was there. He tried saying that she hit him, but she hadn't touched him. It broke my heart. I don't understand where the violence is coming from.
In our home, we typically don't spank. With Swae, all it took was her having to look at the wall or a sticker and that was all the tuning she needed. With Seth, looking at the wall doesn't work. He has gotten a spanking a handful of times and that doesn't phase him either. We've tried talking, we've tried raising our voices...nothing seems to be working. He continues to be abusive and it is starting to break my heart. I hate seeing our sweet little boy act like this. I hate seeing Skylar's face when she is the brunt of his aggression. And I hate that now Skylar is learning that hitting is an acceptable behavior since that is what she sees and gets from her brother. He doesn't just act out on Skylar. He will with Swae too, but doesn't do it as much because Swae has a voice and can tell us what happened. Skylar can't.
Is this just a "boys will be boys" thing? I don't know. What I do know is that I worry that Skylar is going to end up hurt. And I hate that she thinks that it is ok to hit or kick or push when things aren't going her way. I am also at a loss at how to correct Seth's behavior. I told him from now on he will get back whatever he dishes out. And the fact that Daddy is on board is great. Seth listens to his Daddy because he idolizes him. I am hoping that we can get this nipped in the ass and with a quickness. I just wish we knew that these same values were being reinforced when they aren't with us. That would really be a big help.