tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1850392774720790163.post3588188875564017750..comments2023-09-26T05:28:38.743-07:00Comments on Walker - Family of 6: Hitting, Kicking, Pushing...Punching????Stephaniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17408462028112937758noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1850392774720790163.post-67915802860864581502010-11-08T14:02:03.715-08:002010-11-08T14:02:03.715-08:00Spongebob maybe... Seth watches a ton of TV at hi...Spongebob maybe... Seth watches a ton of TV at his mom's house. Seems that is all that they do there. They have seen every episode of everything. I try not to have them watch TV with us. If they do it is the last half hour before they go to bed.<br /><br />We are definitely being consistent. Please know we are not hitting him, kicking him, or pushing him...although we have mentioned it. Like you said, it doesn't teach them anything if we do it to him. Right now we are on the track of taking toys away, having him sit out of playing while his sisters play. We are working on it and hopefully it will get better. <br /><br />I too have thought that it might be an attention thing, but he isn't acting out when his sisters are getting attention. He does it when he thinks that we aren't watching or paying attention. I have told him that if he needs attention or needs some love to just tell me. So we are working on that as well. I am very hopeful that things get better and soon. :)Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17408462028112937758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1850392774720790163.post-83261407246721186902010-11-08T09:43:07.300-08:002010-11-08T09:43:07.300-08:00I meant expect him to ask for attention A lot. Not...I meant expect him to ask for attention A lot. Not to hit a lot. :)Lynseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11498034440720017055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1850392774720790163.post-21976430352687210632010-11-08T09:42:11.043-08:002010-11-08T09:42:11.043-08:00Seth is young and still learning to completely und...Seth is young and still learning to completely understand. So with him being young, they tend to go through "phases" of needing more attention. Unfortionately they don't really know how to just ask for it. Someone told me when my oldest son was struggling with attention to just tell him what he did was not ok and not allowed and that if he needed attention he needed to ask for it. It didn't always work because well kids will be kids but he got better at saying he wanted some attention. But do expect it to happen A LOT until he learns to share the attention again.Lynseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11498034440720017055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1850392774720790163.post-60534961159648634032010-11-08T09:06:10.453-08:002010-11-08T09:06:10.453-08:00Praise him when he behaves well, and be consistent...Praise him when he behaves well, and be consistent in removing privileges when he is not behaving well. Consistency is the key; if not consistent if taking away privileges when state you will, he will know you may not do so. Spanking really does not help; if trying to teach not to hit or kick, makes no sense to use that type of punishment. Just serves to send mixed signals. <br />He is likely going through some growing pains of his own and at that age, it's difficult to use words rather than fists if frustrated. Patience and consistency is key. Good luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1850392774720790163.post-62796308220465641122010-11-08T05:06:55.703-08:002010-11-08T05:06:55.703-08:00I never had that problem with my kids but they tal...I never had that problem with my kids but they talk so mean to each other and that breaks my heart. It is so hard when nothing is working. Maybe take away privileges. Be consistant...that is the keyHe & Me + 3https://www.blogger.com/profile/03692972824923390203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1850392774720790163.post-54238108533874584892010-11-07T15:59:43.559-08:002010-11-07T15:59:43.559-08:00Oh man, I totally relate to this. Not only is Cole...Oh man, I totally relate to this. Not only is Cole violent in the same way as Seth- but he does NOT listen and there isn't a punishment on the planet that I have thought of that will work on him. I am really just hoping it is a phase.<br /><br />The weird thing is that I don't even know where he got it. He doesn't have older siblings- and we have never been violent with him- my best guess is... Spongebob?<br /><br />If you think of anything innovative that works please pass it on! <br /><br />xoxoJenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11571662009601634638noreply@blogger.com